Are you proactive or reactive? – Be in charge of your life now!

Are you proactive or reactive? - Be in charge of your life now!

Hey loves, today I’m here writing this article about proactivity which I believe can help you in your life in every sphere. Remember those situations when you felt overwhelmed by negative emotions such as anger, pressure, despair or nervousness. Well, we have all been through this. The way we choose to deal with these emotions is what makes the difference between being proactive or reactive.

Let me give a personal example about a time when I had to be proactive. Earlier in my career, after I graduated, I was working as a press journalist and lost my job after 2 years as the company closed down due to financial problems. So I found myself at home and jobless. After 2 months of not finding a good work opportunity, I started feeling anxious about my career, got depressed and frustrated. I was comparing myself with other people and the situation was getting worst. That was a reactive behavior.

Then I realized that I had to do something about it and create my own opportunity. I’ve always been passionate about fashion. I used to read lots of fashion magazines and blogs at that time and this is how I was inspired to create my own fashion blog. Once I knew what I wanted, I worked towards achieving that goal. I did lots of research and gradually built my blog online from scratch. I kept myself busy writing, taking photos and engaging on social networks to grow my audience. I also started yoga and exercising which made me feel even better and more confident. Eventually, everything started falling into place; I found another job and continued working on my blog as a part time. That was a proactive behavior; I worked on what I could do to make the situation better.

Being proactive means anticipating what’s coming in the future and taking actions beforehand whereas being reactive means going with the flow and being affected by things we cannot control. The key to proactivity is to know what has to be changed to make a situation better. It’s easy to be reactive but it takes energy to rise above the difficulties of the moment, to see the big picture and make the changes we need to make. What prevents us from being proactive is the fear of the unknown. We all are afraid of the unknown but being proactive means being prepared to face those challenging situations. Proactivity is a quality which can be improved and strengthened over time. We just need to work on it constantly. Of course it does not come overnight; it requires effort and perseverance.

Here are some tips which can help you become more proactive:

  • Awareness – Be aware of everything that is going on around you. Every details count. For example: be aware about your feelings and thoughts, how your actions impact others, how you present yourself and don’t take things for granted. Meditating 20 minutes a day can help you become more aware. Also, put yourself in other’s shoes, this will allow you to understand and deal with them more efficiently.
  • Notice reactive behaviors and act to change it – If you are feeling down because you have been criticized, instead of sulking over it, try to see what you can change to make things better. Practice self-criticism and you will discover where you went wrong and what needs to be changed.
  • Set goals – Have clear and reasonable goals set for the future. Whether it’s what you want to accomplish during the week, the weekend, the whole month or year, set your goals and find effective ways to achieve them.
  • Learn important lessons from setbacks and failures – Setbacks and failures happen to everyone. The way you choose to react to those situations is what makes the difference. See failure as an opportunity to learn and grow. I love what Oprah Winfrey said in one of her interviews about failure: “there’s no such thing as failure; failure is just life trying to move us in another direction.”
  • Energize yourself through exercises – Get in shape! As you feel at ease in your body, you confidence grow and you are more likely to feel motivated and take actions.
  • Uncover potential problems – Find out about any complex situations which you think might arise in the future and minimize their impact by working on it in advance.
  • Think and plan ahead of time and have a backup plan ready.

I hope these tips can help you become more proactive and take the best decisions in your life. Let me know in the comment section what your thoughts about proactivity are and you can also share your own experiences. I’m always glad to hear from you.

Sending you lots of love and positivity xoxo

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